Loss and Dying
There are common emotions and reactions to all kinds of loss. These are just some of those reactions that we would consider “normal” for anyone experiencing loss.
When something happens to us we go into shock – sometimes denying that anything has happened at all.
Biological reactions kick in and often people feel numb – not even feeling part of what is going on around them – and only gradually does that wear off and emotions emerge. We might just freeze and not feel able to do anything – or we might want to run as fast as we can away from the situation. We might even be filled with a desire to stand up against what has happened. Any of those reactions are normal – but we might be left feeling that we are danger, a feeling that can stay switched on even when we are safe.
There are ways of dealing with the effects of loss, grief in general and even severe trauma – something we can explore with you in therapy.
These are the kinds of reactions we would expect to see:
Emotions can vary widely on a day to day basis and might include any or all of the following:
- Anger ( questions like “Why me/him/her?”)
- Fear ( which can lead to lack of confidence)
….. and many others. The clue is if you did not feel the emotion before the event happened then it is most likely connected.
The way that the brain handles information is also affected. Overload means that you are not going to perform mentally as well as you might normally:
- Lack of concentration
- Short term memory loss
- Inability to do simple tasks
- All of which can lead to accidents and trouble in a work environment as things will take longer
The stress of it all also affects our physical body.
This might show itself at one end of a scale in simple aches and pains the doctors will not be able to diagnose.
On the other end the effects can be dramatic – strokes, heart attacks – the body giving way under pressure.
People often report of pain in the same area of the body of a person who has died for example.
Regardless of the kind of loss you have experienced you may recognise some of those symptoms – please do get in touch for more in depth discussions about how we can help you move forward to a place where pain recedes.
However grief and or loss is affecting you we will look together at finding a way of dealing with your situation.