No matter who you are relationship breakdown is so difficult!
Whether you are a person has initiated the breakdown or someone who has had this done to them the emotions and feelings can be very high and destructive.
Even the best minded people who want amicable splits can sometimes lose that kindness when conversations about money start to surface. Or children – the cat – whatever it might be.
If you have patterns of relationships that have not worked in the past – or even been brought up in that kind of setting – the effect can be even more pronounced.
We look at your behaviour to see what works and helps you – because often in relationship patterns not all actions are helpful.
We would want then to get you to do more of those things that help – leading to that better version of you we have spoken about.
If you would like to find some different ways of handling the fallout of relationships that have not worked out then please do get in contact.
Complex Grief and Loss
Sometimes the effect of loss and grief can stay with us for far too long – we get stuck in patterns and often afraid of the future or even thinking about an alternative future where laughter and love have a place.
It is not uncommon for people to stay stuck for many years – their whole lives dominated by what has happened.
With grief it can get complicated – either because we were too devoted or because we had mixed feelings about the person.
With relationship loss where the person is still around in some way that can also bring daily challenges to life.
We work with you to discover how you might live well – a kind of good revenge to have if you are angry, and a better place to be.
Being in that better place is also where you might want to get to if you had intense love for the person where pain gets in the way.
We help you find ways of dealing with pain and putting things into different perspectives.
If you are not sure if this applies to you then please do contact us.
Trauma and PTSD
It is possible that the enormity of a shock – either a one off event or a sequence of events – leads to a point of being overwhelmed.
At that place the label Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is often applied – basically not a good place to be, where you have so many symptoms on a checklist that you qualify for the label.
For some it can seem impossible to emerge from this – but from the work done we know that it is possible to lessen the symptoms so that the label for some no longer applies.
Whatever your trauma has been please get in touch to discuss this so that we might find ways of beginning to climb what seems like a very large mountain.
Life is not for most people experiences which are always positive – sometimes life gets in the way and the unexpected happens. Lives can be shattered – we would hope to work with you so that you can begin to find a way forward.